My problem is, one family member opens cards that have been left there for my daughter, and puts all sorts of cheap decorations around her grave. Recently, they put decorations directly on her gravestone which left large stains. We are now left searching for a professional to remove them, or her stone will need to be replaced.

Careless relative caused damage to the ornate marker honoring girl who died at 16, and now a professional will be needed to make it right.

Dear Abby advises a family who lost their daughter two years ago that wants to know what the rules of etiquette are when it comes to visiting her grave site.